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Twaambo Kapilikisha – In the middle.

In a new series of articles, black women living in Europe share their views from the inside. In our fourth article, Twaambo Kapilikisha addresses sisters in Europe with children “in the middle”. 

Twitter is an interesting place,where mere mortals can connect with celebrities and get a message to them directly, a place where the masses gather for different causes,good and bad ones.

I was a witness to some recent twitter backlash towards a singer who tweeted another singer about the fact that they were both half African (They each had one parent from a certain African country)

That was not taken too well with some of the citizens of said country.

They sent her lots of mean tweets, going on about her not being able to properly pronounce her last name, tweeting things like ‘Oh you’re one of us now are you?’

The artist was indeed shocked and could not believe how mean people were being!

I remember when this artist was hot on the charts, she did acknowledge her African side, but seemed not to identify too much with it and could not.

This got me thinking about how we are raising our children far away from where we were born.

There is a large number of women, living in countries where they were not born, married to men of a different citizenship, culture and sometimes colour.

These amazing women have uprooted themselves,l eft the familiar and set up homes away from the home that they knew.

They have accomplished things their mothers only dreamed about, have access to what some women in their homelands only fantasize about.

They have beautiful children or are planning on having children.

Sometimes these children have a hard time with their identity. Not only because there is an obvious difference in how they look in comparison to the rest of the kids at school, but because sometimes no matter how much they try to fit in, they may not be accepted as a real part of the culture.

A lot of children feel they are in no man’s land. Born in a country that one of their parents was not born in, in a land where Mummy has had to adjust to as well. A land where she has embraced a new culture but still in some ways holds on to her own.

She may give them names that she believes will help her children fit in more, shying from her own traditional name that gets shredded to pieces while being pronounced every day. She may work on getting them to join clubs, sports and associations that will keep them grounded and rooted in that culture. This is fantastic, nobody wants their child shunned or sticking out like a sore thumb.

I do believe it is important though to take a brave step and educate them about where you are from.

Where is it? Who are your parents? What games did you play when you were a little girl?

How are you teaching them to celebrate where YOU are from?

Is your child proud to say he/she has a parent that is from a different nation? Could your child say that she has visited been there is in touch with extended family? Could she have a story to tell about that place?

This middle ground is not exclusive for a child that is mixed race. I know someone that is half German and half French and born and raised in Germany.

When in Germany everyone calls him the ‘French guy’, when in France he is the ‘German guy’. He has admitted to feeling he does not belong anywhere and has come to accept it. He has done a good job of shrugging it off and enjoying both sides of his heritage. Finding a good spot in being knowledgeable about both sides of his parentage and embracing the fact that yes, he is a mix and loves both, celebrates both and can adapt on either side. Granted Germany and France are not that far away from each other, but that is the point exactly!

How are we preparing our children to deal with being in the middle with regards to their heritage? How do we tie in the two?

As for the singer that suffered the twitter massacre, in her defense, its not her fault she never visited when she was younger, its not her fault she could not relate. She may have never been taught to.

Teach your children to embrace every side of their heritage, if they choose to walk away from it that is their choice, but you are equipping them with a powerful weapon. Being able to empathize, relate to people from all walks of life. Most of all to live more comfortably and lovingly in the middle.

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Twaambo Kapilikisha. Photo: Philipp Hamedl

 

Twaambo Kapilikisha who has discovered she has a knack for radio is a on a personal writing and speaking journey of discovery. She enjoys exploring the different facets of women and  exploring life by asking questions, through her blogs www.thebookwormgiraffe.blogspot.de and www.mukaintu.blogspot.de. You can also listen to her radio show called Diasporan Truth on www.zambiablogtalkradio.com where her intention is to engage Zambians in the diaspora to mobilise and bring positive change to Zambia.

Next month Kendra Williams-Valentine learns to love strawberries.

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BlackWomen Bloggers in Europe Series – Germany 8- Tatiana in Flux

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Hi! I’m Tatiana Richards Hanebutte. I live a flux life: I’m an Alabama native turned American expat in Germany. Last year, I left a full time job to become a (temporary) stay-at-home mom. And that job I left? I managed social media communications for a chamber of commerce and a city magazine. Journalism plus social media; that’s about as flux as it gets. I guess you could say I like disruption.

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Here at TatianaInFlux, I’ll talk about life as an expat, my adventures in motherhood and Germany as I see it.  Knowing me, I’ll probably go off on the occasional tangent. My hopes for the blog is that it will keep my friends and family updated on my life and help me to connect with interesting new people.

So, check it out and enjoy! You should probably start here.

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XXVII. Black International Cinema Berlin 2012

XXVII. Black International Cinema Berlin 2012
festival online presentation

 

bic fits 2012 XXVII. Black International Cinema Berlin 2012

May 2-6, 2012

RATHAUS SCHÖNEBERG (City Hall)
John-F.-Kennedy-Saal, Kinosaal (cinema), Bibliothek (library)
John-F.-Kennedy-Platz 1
10825 Berlin, Germany

A COMPLEXION CHANGE – Transnational & Intercultural Diplomacy

“View to the Future – The Flag still flies”

in cooperation with / in Kooperation mit der
Commissioner for Integration, District Tempelhof-Schöneberg, Berlin
Integrationsbeauftragten des Bezirks Tempelhof-Schöneberg, Berlin

in association with / in Verbindung mit der
Embassy of the United States of America, Berlin
Botschaft der Vereinigten Staaten von Amerika, Berlin


Black International Cinema Berlin is an intercultural and interdisciplinary festival, presenting the contributions of international filmmakers, artists and engaged people with diverse cultural, ethnic, socio-economic und religious backgrounds.

The festival focuses on presenting works from the African Diaspora as well as contributions dealing with intercultural themes and perspectives.

Black International Cinema Berlin offers a forum for the intellectual and artistic exchange and seeks to provide an oasis of inspiration and information to contribute towards a peaceful and respectful living together in our multi-faceted society.

The film program will be accompanied by discussions, performances, seminars and musical presentations.


Admission is without charge / Der Eintritt ist frei


Production & Direction
FOUNTAINHEAD® TANZ THEATRE
THE COLLEGIUM – FORUM & TELEVISION PROGRAM BERLIN
“FOOTPRINTS IN THE SAND?” – EXHIBITION, July1-August 31, 2012

in association with
CULTURAL ZEPHYR e.V.

“….We Have A Dream and Still We Rise….”

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Black Women Bloggers in Europe Series – Germany 6 – Afro Meets Europe

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This blog is home of 2 afro sisters living an intercultural life in Germany. Here we share our daily afro-euro experiences and our passion for the arts and culture, fashion, mode, design and everything in between. We love all things afro, ethno, and boho(bohemian) .

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Donna and Lucy are the ladies behind this blog. We are not only best buddies but also sisters-in-law. Living in an interracial marriage does come with it´s challenges. Unfortunately one encounters lots of misunderstanding and even prejudice from “potential” friends. We are very lucky we have each other and we live a very similar lifestyle….. It makes the friendship quite easy-going, relaxed and rewarding. Donna Nakumba Axenkopf was born and grew up in a beautiful little coastal town called Victoria in Cameroon(West Africa). The sea was my first love and I come alive each time we meet. I presently live with my beautiful and loving intercultural family in good old Deutschland(Germany)….. Lucy Katana Straubmueller was born and grew up in Kampala the capital of Uganda (East Africa). Coming from an ecclectic family that seemed eccentric to some… i learnt at an early age to keep an open mind .I presently live with my beautiful & intercultural family in Germany as well.

Visit the Afro Meets Europe blog: http://afromeetseuro.blogspot.com/

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First Lady Surprises Group of Service Men and Women at Ramstein Air Base by Helping Serve Steaks at Special Veterans Day Meal

image7044082g First Lady Surprises Group of Service Men and Women at Ramstein Air Base by Helping Serve Steaks at Special Veterans Day Meal

The first lady of the United States Michelle Obama, left, serves food for U.S. soldiers and their relatives at Ramstein Airbase in Ramstein, Germany, Nov. 11, 2010. (AP Photo/Michael Probst)

Source: CBS News
First Lady Michelle Obama surprised a group of U.S. servicemen and women based in Germany on Thursday, jumping in to serve them steaks at a special Veterans Day meal.

“Oh, my God! Where’s my camera,” gasped Lavondee Stallings, a preschool teacher whose husband serves in the military, as Obama entered the banquet room at Ramstein Air Base’s Officers Club.

Stallings was one of some 200 people with whom the First Lady spent time during a refueling stopover on the way home from her tour of Asia with President Barack Obama.

“I am missing Sasha and Malia desperately,” Obama said of her daughters as she spoke to the group gathered for the donated steak dinner, grilled by volunteers from the California-based Cooks of the Valley.

“But it is a thrill to be here with you guys, because we are so grateful to all of you,” she said. “Not just our servicemen and women, but their kids, wives, husbands and parents.”

Read the full story on CBS.com

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